Growing Deeper in Relationships

Growing Deeper

Picture this: You’ve just met someone new and you’re really excited to get to know them and become friends. Over the next few weeks, you learn more about this person, but in small fragments. You find yourself wishing you were already close friends with this person because you can tell how wonderfully you would get along and how much you would have in common. But it just seems as if you’ll never get there.

Have you ever felt this way? I have. There’s even an unofficial word for it. John Koenig created an online dictionary of words to fill in “holes” in the English language—to give us a sense that we are not alone in some of the ways we feel and think. Koenig describes the “frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone” as adronitis. Do you feel better after hearing that a word semi-exists for this feeling? The thought calms me.

The truth of the matter is we all desire deep, personal relationships in our lives. Depending on different facets of your personality, it can sometimes be hard to actually grow deeper in relationships. Maybe you feel awkward or shy or don’t want to come across as too pushy. That’s natural. I feel all those emotions on a regular basis. There’s a good possibility your new friend feels similarly.

Keep in mind that God created us to worship Him and show others the great love He has for all people. And we can’t accomplish that second part without developing relationships with others. The great comfort is that God would not ask something of us that He hasn’t equipped us for. If you move past your fears—which are decidedly not from God—and open up to someone for the sake of sharing God’s love and the good news with them, this world will be richly blessed. Why? Because, through your friendship, there will be 1 more person on this earth who knows the love of the Lord. That’s beautiful.

I think we all understand the importance of our relationships with others. It’s part of our humanity. But growing deeper relationships can be spiritually and emotionally life changing for both parties involved. When you invest in someone else, you are planting and watering the “seeds” for this person to grow closer to God. Don’t let the opportunity pass you by, and don’t let the adronitis get you down.

Jessica Graham is a copy editor at national WMU. She has found herself dealing with adronitis on several occasions but always reminds herself that patience with God’s timing is the best way to overcome the emotion.

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