- 12/17/2012 - 7:00pm

A good policy (and a cliché, I suppose) to follow is this: Say what you mean and mean what you say.

I don’t know who said that first, but I’ll use it here. I like it.

Keeping your word is not always easy. It should be. But it’s not.

We learn from an early age to tell “a little white lie” to get out of a problem. We can be tempted to “cheat just a little” on our taxes because everyone else does it. We can cut corners because no one is really going to check behind us.

But is that the point? Do we lie because it is easy? Do we cheat because everyone does it? Do we cut corners because no one checks behind us?

I’ve never seen the top of the Statue of Liberty, at least in person. I am told that the top of the statue is finely crafted, as is the rest of the statue. The statue was designed by Frédéric Auguste Bartholdi, and dedicated on October 28, 1886, as a gift to the American people. The date of dedication is important to note, 1886. That’s long before mass air transit. airplanes. Or helicopters. Or even buildering—climbing buildings, often without permission. (Even though hot air balloons were available, few people would have been able to take such a ride to see the top of the statue.)

So, why not cut corners? Why not leave the top unfinished? Roughed in? Doing so would have saved time and money.

But no. It was finished. Crafted. And completed.

How I wish my life could be like that. Complete, finished, and crafted, both inside and out, the parts seen and those never seen by anyone else.

What a goal for me. And maybe for you too. Do what you say you are going to do. Complete the work placed before you. Be a good steward of your time, energy, money, etc. Give everything your very best effort. Honor what you say you will do.

 

 

- 11/26/2012 - 12:57pm

 

Like adults, teenagers often experience a great deal of stress every day. And, like adults, teenagers can benefit from developing good stress management skills.

What do teenagers have to be stressed about? The list may include:

• School/academic demands
• Negative thoughts and feelings about themselves
• Dramatic changes in their bodies
• Problems with friends at school or church
• Separation or divorce of parents
• Death of someone close to them
• Taking on too many activities or having too high expectations

As teenagers become overwhelmed by stress, they often give in to anxiety, withdrawal, aggression, physical illness, or poor coping skills. The downward spiral caused by stress can be quick, long, and messy.

What can parents, adults, and missions leaders do to help teenagers struggling with stress? Here are few ideas:

• Parents, adults, and leaders can monitor if stress is affecting a teenager’s health, behavior, thoughts, or feelings.
• Missions leaders can listen carefully to teenagers and watch for symptoms of being the overloaded.
• Parents can learn and model stress management skills to their teenagers.

Teenagers, themselves, can play a role in developing a healthy stress management lifestyle. Here are some ways for teens to accept responsibility for controlling their stress levels:

• Exercise and eat regularly
• Avoid excess caffeine intake
• Not use drugs, alcohol, and tobacco
• Practice situations that cause stress (i.e., taking a speech class if talking in front of a class makes you anxious)
• Build a network of friends who can help you cope with stress in a positive way

When parents, adults, missions leaders, and teenagers use these types of stress management skills, the level of stress can be lowered—even though stress will never be completely removed.

M. Steve Heartsill is the managing editor for Royal Ambassadors® and Challengers®.
 

view counter
view counter
view counter