The Man I Admire

Unlocking the door, I walk into my home after a long day at the office. The floors are swept, the house dusted, the dishes are clean and there he is—smiling, welcoming me home.

His acts are never done in order to be praised, he sees a need and he will work as long as it takes to complete it. Staying late at church he makes sure all the trash is picked up from the youth group. He is always the first to volunteer to carry in boxes, set something up, or volunteer for an event.

If I’m being honest, humility is not something I have consistently prayed after in my life. I’ve struggled with how it is embodied and wanted to learn how it plays out in day-to-day life—then I met my husband.

It is so not about him.

He will serve until everything is done. He doesn’t desire to be praised, it is simple for him; his desire is to live a life of excellence before the Lord, honoring Him in everything he does.

You see it in the way he walks, the way he sees people and asks them how they are doing even if the clock is ticking and the errand was supposed to be “fast.” You see it in the way he will give up his agenda for those of other people—willing to listen to their ideas first.

Returning home from conversations that were not so easy, the ones where my fiery heart says, “How dare that person speak to you like that!” he calmly weighs the words in his heart. He asks God for His truth and is willing to listen to correction.

These qualities are why I fell in love with my husband in the first place, hearing a heart that was gentle, calm, and always looking around the world for how he could serve and love. I am continually challenged by this man, because oftentimes I make the world about my agenda and run to the beat of that pace, growing selfish and concerned about what I think needs to be done.

And then I see the man God has gifted me to love—and I am challenged. Challenged to not make everything about me and what I want. Challenged to serve. Challenged to truly see people each day for who they are and ask God for eyes to see His kingdom in the mundane.

Abi Khavari traveled the world, writing for a non-profit agency in the Middle East. She now lives in Colorado, got married recently, and is starting her Masters of Counseling this spring.

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